When I wrote my post titled, "Our friends in the gold wrappers", talking about professional athletes fathering multiple children outside of wedlock, I got several comments from people saying it was the women's fault; that these women are gold-diggers just using these men for their money and their status. And in many cases this is true. But my argument is that these men bring that on themselves by their own behavior.


Now before you men get all mad at me, hear me out. All I'm saying is that whatever you advertise for is what you get. Our society as a whole, women included, worships money. So you cannot walk around dripping in diamonds, sporting Louis Vuitton sneakers and Gucci sunglasses, driving a Bentley, and then expect people to deal with you strictly on the merit of your character. That's like a woman walking around in a dress with her butt and boobs hanging out, and then getting mad at men for not caring about the complexities of what's going on in her pretty little head, and instead just wanting to "hit it". Neither makes much sense.


If these men are going to flaunt their millions, which they have every right to do, they need to at least be perceptive enough, and willing, to separate those that care about them from those that care about their money. And if they want to sleep with beautiful women because their status affords them those opportunities, cool. But in that case, they know what she's there for and there is no way they should get tricked or trapped by her.


That leads me to my next point: these men use their money and status to get women. Duh, of course they do. But what I'm saying is, if they approach a woman like she should sleep with them because of who they are, and she does, then they know exactly why she slept with them! And you would be surprised how unashamed these men are in terms of soliciting women.


One certain NBA All-Star came up to me, tapped me on the shoulder, said "that one", and walked away, only to have one of his male groupies run up behind him and inform me that said player wanted my number. When I didn't give it to him (because the method was totally disrespectful), he looked at me like I had just grown a third eye. I'm assuming this scenario had happened many times before and rarely with the answer "no" following.


Another player - gotta love the NBA - approached me, told me I was beautiful, and after a short conversation asked if he could take me to lunch. I was impressed because it was different than the way other athletes had approached me, so I said, "sure, lunch would be cool", and gave him my number. Within an hour he was texting me, telling me where his room was and suggesting we could "chill" there later. Funny how fast he went from, "lets do lunch" to "I got a room at such-and-such hotel"; and best believe I called him out on it. Lol.


I could tell stories like these all day. The point is that these men use their status to get trifling women to sleep with them, and the women that won't sleep with them simply because of who they are, they want nothing to do with. So sorry if I don't feel bad for the ones that this behavior turns around and bites in the butt. Yes there are instances where the woman is thought to be trustworthy and proven to be otherwise. But this happens far less than we, as the male athlete loving population, would like to believe.