Playin vs. Pimpin
***this really has nothing to do with sports, other than the fact that I've dealt with my fair share of athletes, which gives me more than an adequate platform to PREACH on this subject! Lol. So here goes...
I admire pimps. Ya, I said it. And no, not because I approve of what they do; but because they are open and upfront about doing something that most of us find detestable. Many of us don't have the courage to do that in our own lives, even though the bulk of our actions are way more marginal than selling a woman's body for profit. I'm not saying I wish we all acted like pimps in our dealings with people. But what if we all had a pimp's MENTALITY in terms of OUR OWN intentions and behavior in our relationships with others?
In terms of my own relationships, I've been in every role possible. I've been in monogamous relationships, situations where I had a #1 and another one (or two) on the side, times when I was someone's #1, and also when I was knowingly their #2. I know how the game works. I've never been a player, but I've done some very pimpish things. I can admit that because above all, one thing has always been constant in my relationships: honesty. Each person involved knew exactly what they were dealing with.
You see, a player plays games with people's emotions, time, effort, etc. They lie and they manipulate. A pimp tells those getting involved what the situation is up front, and then lets them make an informed decision about whether or not they want to participate. Sometimes the answer is yes, sometimes it's no. But if one does end up dealing with a pimp, they went in with their eyes open. I would much rather give informed consent than pretend ignorance is bliss. Anyone can lie, but it takes skills to tell the truth and still do what you want to.
Now we've all been dating that person that we thought we had all to ourselves. You know, they talk that game that sounds like genuine interest, call or come over when they say they will, are passionately intimate, and do all the little things to show that they're really feeling us. And then bam, we find out differently. Ladies maybe you've gotten that "I'm his girlfriend or baby mama" phone call or email. And fellas, maybe you've called at the wrong time or seen her out with someone else, and all the sudden realized you were "boyfriend #2". But the entire point of this is like dude, there are LOTS of men and women out there, especially these days, who don't necessarily need and/or want to be in a committed, one-on-one relationship to do the things that grown-ups do. So if you're just looking for a hook-up, why lie about it?
That is something I don't and will never understand. If you can tell the truth and still do what you want, what is the point of lying? I understand lying to your #1: your wife, husband, girlfriend, or boyfriend - although I definitely don't agree with it, I get why one might do it. But there is no need to lie to the randoms. Instead of being a player and a coward, have some respect for yourself and others, and act like a pimp! Because truthfully, they're the ones that have real game anyway! Lol.
HarryPotter said June 18, 2009
TheOneNOnly said June 18, 2009
STLnTDOT said June 18, 2009
"Act like a pimp" .... that could actually become a life motto lol
six8pwrhouse said June 18, 2009
gone head Miss Anderson... those people just a different breed....they just not real...so in the words of the great OJ da Juiceman "Gotta keep 200 for the ones they fake!!" haha...!!
ExiledDemigod said June 18, 2009
I don't personally get it - and I'm glad about that.
ATLBallin said June 18, 2009
AlanaG replied June 18, 2009
Then of course there is also the meaning of "pimp" that we use as slang to refer to non-criminal people who just subscribe to that mentality (not the illegal acts). I read the post as talking about those kinds of pimps...
Yuri28 replied June 18, 2009
AlanaG replied June 18, 2009
Please! No quality female like myself or Chantelle would ever accept disrespect from any man. But if it suits what I'm looking for, I do accept dating a man who I know is dating another woman and being honest about it. To me that's not disrespect if I myself decide that I am getting something positive out of the situation.
As for the slang definition of "pimp".... do you really never hear friends referring to another friend as a "pimp" because he's able to do something like date multiple women in the open, even though he's law-abiding and doesn't abuse any of them like a real pimp does? I use the word "pimp" in that slang way all the time.
arb4116 said June 18, 2009
1way2play said June 18, 2009
jerseu_devil said June 18, 2009
Ernwoo said June 18, 2009
w333man said June 18, 2009
pilight said June 18, 2009
Yuri28 said June 18, 2009
Yuri28 said June 18, 2009
SMH12289 said June 18, 2009
Whats next? A "I admire rapists" blog because they take what they want
AlanaG replied June 18, 2009
speedwell replied June 18, 2009
SMH12289 replied June 18, 2009
AlanaG replied June 18, 2009
Chantelle could have used a less despicable character to make her point. She could have said she hates "players" and she wishes everyone would be upfront, just like an old-school grandma is upfront. She'd be making the same point, but in a much less powerful way, in my opinion.
imtheoneson said June 18, 2009
calieagle99 said June 18, 2009
Pimp on Pimpin'
Ernwoo replied June 18, 2009
Ernwoo replied June 18, 2009
Ernwoo said June 18, 2009
Scarab said June 18, 2009
And if you've read...excuse me..fully comprehended any of Chantelle's other posts, you'd have an idea about her style of writing which is quite provocative, humorous, entertaining and REAL! Usually starting w/an attention-grabbing title/headline that makes you think the post is about one thing or coming from one angle/perspective that upon readin the full post, you find out it isn't.
From a fellow sistah and writer...I feel you Chan. Another good post. Keep setting it off.
And for those of you that have your boxers and jock straps in a knot over this blog...um...."thou doest protest too much." (Which begs a whole host of other questions or potential blogs lol)
nidelup replied June 19, 2009
Yeah, Chantelle always brings out the man haters and male bashers. Here you have "males" objecting to the use of the term "pimp" in a positive way, and they're being condemned for objecting. If a "male" athlete had written the exact same word for word article, instead of praising and defending him, you would be calling for him to be banned from ever writing for Yardbarker again. I realize that us "males" are held in low regard by Chantelle and her supporters like you but if you really believe that males are incapable of reading comprehension or the use of "irony or moral paradoxes in literature" I'd be happy to provide you with a rather lengthy list of male authors ( yes"male" authors) who are rather highly thought of. Although you might prefer Chantelle's band of "literature."
Tabloids, shock-jocks, etc, all use "provocative" "attention-grabbing" tactics to attract audiences, but oddly for that they are held in low-esteem and not considered worthy of being taken seriously. Think the National Enquirer versus the New York Times, or Don Imus versus Tom Lehrer. When you have to use shock headlines it isn't usually considered the mark of a superior writing talent, actually it generally gets you placed in the "trash" category reserved for those so lacking in ability that they have to resort to cheap tabloid tactics to get attention.
And congrats on the use of the "boxers and jock straps" line. That kind of anti-male bias is always welcome here at Chantelle's where women can do no wrong and men are always wrong.
Scarab did point out that the comments that took offense were written mostly by males, which is true. But I don't think she was saying because they're male they are "incapable of reading comprehension". There was no causal relationship implied. She was just defending me because it's obvious some people were taking offense to the "pimp" idea and not reading it for what I wrote.
And you are correct. It may have been taken differently by many if a man had written this article, but that is hardly my fault. I personally wouldn't have taken it any differently because I agree with advocating honesty and that's what this post is doing.
And if you really think my writing is no better than the national enquirer and the other trash like it then thats fine; you're entitled to your opinion. Interestingly you are always reading and commenting on what I write. And just so you know, yes, I may use certain lines for the "shock value" to get people's attention, but the overall point of what I write is not to gossip or degrade any group. It's to get people thinking and discussing things they might not consider otherwise. I don't understand how you can't see that, but thankfully there are many other people who do, and appreciate my writing for it.
As always, thanks for your input but once again, we just disagree.
nidelup replied June 19, 2009
"Scarab did point out that the comments that took offense were written mostly by males, which is true." So what? Why is their gender relevant? Do you want to have your comments and opinions dismissed because someone doesn't like your gender?
"Interestingly you are always reading and commenting on what I write." Uhh, yeah. I mean isn't that the whole point of having a blog that has a comment section? Aren't you supposed to read it and comment on it? Just like you read my comments and comment on them in turn. Am I missing something here? What is "interesting" about someone reading a blog and commenting on it? Or would you prefer to only have comments from the people who always agree with you?
Pimps are scum. Vicious scum. There is nothing, absolutely NOTHING to admire or commend them for.
Traybay replied June 23, 2009
mkrobcom said June 18, 2009
tiffieluv said June 19, 2009
SmoovArt said June 19, 2009